Lydia Loveless is a child of Heartland USA, but she specializes in slaying preconceived notions of country music, marrying tales of small town woes with bluesy stomp and a punk snarl. The last two years have seen her launch a promising career with Bloodshot Records, release two phenomenal albums (Indestructible Machine and Somewhere Else), and one solid EP (Boy Crazy). She was kind enough to answer reader queries for us and her thoughtful, wise answers belie a tender age of 23. You can get yourself a taste of Lydia’s good medicine as she rolls through town on Tuesday, September 16th at One Eyed Jacks.
I’m an aspiring artist. My tendency is to work hard and work all the time, but my friends tell me that kicking back and having “life experiences” will actually help my art, too. What the fuck?
Ugh, dude, I know. It is extremely difficult to be an artist because you have to have the self-discipline of a monk (or something). You are, or at least feel like you are, on the clock 24/7. Generally when people tell me that I need to “kick back and relax,” it’s because they feel neglected by me. That’s just a sucky part of being an artist or being friends with an artist. It is a painful, difficult, miserable, and boring life sometimes and it’s hard to make time for anything but your craft. But the rewards of busting your ass at it, whatever “it” is, are so beautiful and exciting that it makes kicking back and having life experiences seem not so important. That said, sometimes you do just need to chill. Like, once a month or whenever you feel like your guts are going to fall out of your body if you don’t watch Netflix or go make out with someone or whatever it is that a life experience is, I forget.
If your partner asks you to be tested for STIs, what is the acceptable window of time in which to do that?
Um, immediately? ASAP? Now? Ideally get tested regularly so you don’t get one of those STDs that sneak up on you (most of them do) and pass it around like hot potato, then end up in that “YOU gave this to me!” argument that everyone loves having. Your privates and your partners will thank you.
What is Facebook etiquette for someone having a public nervous breakdown via their status updates?
This is a trait I find really unattractive in some of the people I know. It’s okay (kind of ) when you really need help because I realize that Facebook is how you reach out to all your friends when you need them, but when it becomes a regular thing (like the extremely public divorce I’m gagging at now) it just needs to stop. If it’s someone you care about, it’s probably a good idea to let them know it’s making you uncomfortable and it’s silly; or if it’s something serious like threatening suicide, maybe have a serious sit down talk. If it’s someone you don’t really know, block that shit and move along.
I work at a Starbucks but my girlfriend is a paralegal so she makes quite a bit more money than me. Usually she’s cool about it but sometimes I sense frustration that I can’t keep up with her budget. Can romantic relationships between people of different economic classes work?
That is tough. I know quite a lot of people in that situation. Surprisingly enough, even I have been in relationships where I had more money. The only times it bothered me were when the other person seemed unwilling to manage their money while spending mine like I was Mama Warbucks. In my relationship now, it isn’t a problem because we love each other and are willing to help each other out when one isn’t in such a good spot. It really just depends more upon how good your relationship is. If she continues to seem “frustrated,” and it’s a constant battle, then no, it won’t work. Not everything does or has to. If she accepts it as a part of being with you, along with all the other (I’m assuming fabulous) qualities, then yes.
I keep abusing my credit card. I know it’s screwing me long term but I can’t help but treat it like magical money. Got any budget/ discipline tips?
I think this is one of those “easier said than done” situations. STOP ABUSING YOUR CREDIT CARD. And never ask a musician for financial advice.